In the course of my work I am very honored to have been given the privilege to work with many clients through their healing journeys. In helping to facilitate their own inner awakening and guiding them in their healing journeys of their mind, body and soul, I almost always encounter in them the blockage of resistance and withdrawal from facing one's own sadness, grief or pain. These are undoubtedly very intense human emotions that tear us to the core, especially when facing an intimate loss, end or empathy. Along the way we have also allowed society and our life conditioning to somehow imprint upon us this notion of unworthiness and subtle shame or even disdain at being sad, depress, low, down and hurting. Unconsciously, we have generally grown up being told to "toughen up", "stop being a baby", "don't be silly"...... etc. I've even witnessed some parents throw a big smack onto their toddler's backside for crying. These days it is not uncommon for adolescents, teenagers, young adults and adults who decide to consult a medical doctor when experiencing extreme sadness, only to be immediately prescribed with antidepressants or sleeping tablets. Could it not be that perhaps it is simply as simple as allowing ourselves to feel and process through our sadness, pain, depression? Have we allowed and given ourselves full permission to honor and release those emotions?
All emotions are simply energy at the very core. Minus the thoughts attached to the energy of that emotion, it is simply energy. Sadness and happiness share the same intensity on the scale of magnitude, only differ based on the thoughts attached to them. Energy can flow and is dynamic if we allow it to flow, so it arises,comes, and passes. But if we grip it by attaching or block it by resisting out of fear, we prevent it from flowing, processing through and clearing. Fear is dominant for we fear the vulnerability, exposure and openness of our heart. We fear we may totally crumble to bits like Humpty Dumpty and not be able to be put back together again. That may be the case for awhile if one is a lost soul with no inner awareness of self beyond mind and body. But if one has an awakened inner awareness, the anchoring and trust in our higher reality allows immense growth and transformation to emerge after the storm of sorrow and pain passes. Life will show us and teach us, insights and deep peace will reveal if we remain open, seek and learn.
Crying, sobbing, heaving and curling up in a ball in utter sadness and pain, in our own aloneness allow us to shed all the hardened layers of our inner self. I have heard a beautiful saying once, "Crying and sobbing is decalcification of our Heart". The heart is the seat of our soul, the center of unconditional love for our self, and others. Not love only when we are happy, chirpy, all hunky dory, up and skipping, but also love for when we are soft, hurt, in pain and breaking up on the inside. Tears are like the buff that polishes our soul on this journey of life. Every tear we shed goes toward polishing us on the inside to allow our inner glow to shine.We should honor and be proud of every tear we allow ourselves to shed, if we could bottle them, they would be worth the glow and growth of our soul.
Trust in your life's higher purpose, anchor in your inner spirit of love and compassion, and the weather will change. It always does. Nothing remains the same. The sun will shine again, but the wisdom and peace comes from allowing yourself to embrace the rain too.
With Love, Light and Blessings,
Patsie xo
Namaste !
She lives in Perth, Australia.
